tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187887968322911940.post1747382484347518077..comments2023-10-03T04:18:47.428-07:00Comments on The Lethological Reader: The Science of Insulting WomenThe Lethological Gourmethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08728934244935813026noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187887968322911940.post-46337944360116503962007-08-14T06:36:00.000-07:002007-08-14T06:36:00.000-07:00"what about those of us in the middle of those ext..."what about those of us in the middle of those extremes?"<BR/><BR/>Um...ah, yes, the sophisticated woman. Lets just say that is a gray area most guys dabble in :)Hoarse Whispererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03436043325128324311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187887968322911940.post-30165884939123246522007-08-13T13:24:00.000-07:002007-08-13T13:24:00.000-07:00Gopi, what about those of us in the middle of thos...Gopi, what about those of us in the middle of those extremes? We're attracted to bad boys on occasion, but prefer to date the nice ones.The Lethological Gourmethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08728934244935813026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187887968322911940.post-48414533052838891342007-08-13T13:01:00.000-07:002007-08-13T13:01:00.000-07:00"Insulting women and making sure they don't get a ..."Insulting women and making sure they don't get a chance to see any other men sounds like the first step towards abusive behavior."<BR/><BR/>Actually, crabby, that behavior is natural in all higher mammalian species including humans. This is why nice guys end up sleeping in an empty bed :) They rely on the girl having some sort of chemistry with them while the "bad boy" simply by virtue of his behavior elicits a hormonal response in the women he accosts (of course, he could go overboard and ruin it). Based on my own experience, I have seen clear distinctions between the women who are attracted to bad boys and the women who "seek out" nice guys. The former is often very sexual in nature while the latter often comes across as...too prim. My two cents...Hoarse Whispererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03436043325128324311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187887968322911940.post-58477059332718941242007-08-13T11:41:00.000-07:002007-08-13T11:41:00.000-07:00Crabby,The post itself wasn't offensive - it was b...Crabby,<BR/><BR/>The post itself wasn't offensive - it was basically just a summary of what this guy is teaching in his book and asking for comments - the post was trying to be objective and elicit opinions. It's the people who commented on it that I took issue with. They tended to categorically stereotype women as bad boy chasers or status chasers or whatever. I think this kind of topic gets people's ire up, because they've been burned in the past, or they know someone who has, and they extrapolate that to everyone of that gender.The Lethological Gourmethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08728934244935813026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187887968322911940.post-79115043255465794792007-08-13T11:28:00.000-07:002007-08-13T11:28:00.000-07:00Wow. Just wow.Thank you so much for summing this ...Wow. Just wow.<BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for summing this up so I didn't have to go there myself and increase traffic to that post.<BR/><BR/>Insulting women and making sure they don't get a chance to see any other men sounds like the first step towards abusive behavior. I've always been perplexed by women who put up with this sort of thing, and even find it attractive. Coincidentally, they often seem to end up in crappy relationships!Crabby McSlackerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12108791388350253344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187887968322911940.post-9124941645018740192007-08-13T10:08:00.000-07:002007-08-13T10:08:00.000-07:00True true! I don't think that well adjusted peopl...True true! I don't think that well adjusted people necessarily DON'T let emotions guide their thought process, but they also don't let their emotions take over their good sense - they're better able to distinguish when they're being disrespected and even if they're still attracted to that person, are better able to pull themselves away from the situation. So most well adjusted people would follow their emotions to the point where they get negative feedback, and then take the time to assess whether proceeding is really in their best interest (wow, it sounds so clinical when I put it that way...)The Lethological Gourmethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08728934244935813026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2187887968322911940.post-48249227230462158752007-08-13T09:33:00.000-07:002007-08-13T09:33:00.000-07:00The only women, in my experience, who are attracte...The only women, in my experience, who are attracted to "bad boys" are those that already have a low self-esteem and dress as sexily as possible...24x7 :)<BR/><BR/>Women who are comfortable in their skin don't let their emotions guide their thought processes. They can pause, take stock and make decisions when it comes to men, career, etc. (like investing in the stock market fully knowing the risks involved). I think any well-rounded person (male or female) has the capability to act like that.Hoarse Whispererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03436043325128324311noreply@blogger.com